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So, many of you know that my ex-girlfriend (ie… the mother of my son) left here a couple weeks ago and went back to Virginia. This left me with my son to raise by myself for now. I’ve always thought the process of being a father would be difficult for me to integrate and it has been to some degree. My own father (who I’m close with now) wasn’t in my life to a high degree for a good portion of my youth. So, I don’t really understand how to be a father. I’ve been told that I am a great father and I certainly hope that is true. I try to be as tender as his mother was with him but be more stern and structured than his mother was with him. I make sure, as I always have, that he is well provided for and has the best that can be available to him of everything. Still, I find it difficult to replace his mother and to be his everything. Now, luckily, as I’ve said in the past, my assistant helps and my mother, who lives in her own apartment attached to my house, is a big help too.

There’s a ton of responsibility in guiding him to be a better man than I am. I believe this should be my goal and I work towards it. It also makes it difficult to be me sometimes. I’m very passionate, enjoy a robust social life and tend to be more creative and unstructured. Balancing this against what I need to do as a father causes some tension in my life. I can be structured and I do it all the time in my professional life but in my personal life I’ve always leaned toward less structure and more of a spur of the moment life style. I think my personal style is to counter the amount of planning, strategy and structure that goes in to my professional life.

It’s an amazing thing to wake up and see your son in his room sleeping and know you are going to help mold is future and make him in to a man one day at a time. It can also be overwhelming and frightening. I’m proud to be my son’s father and I hope that I can teach him all the lessons I had to learn on my own. I hope I can give and help him work towards the things that were difficult for me or out of my reach. I hope that one day he won’t have to forgive me for anything I did. I hope he leads a life without regrets and keeps peace in his soul.